Make positive choices more easily in order to increase your wellness.
By: Alkmini Hormovas, LMFT
Let's start with your ideas about Self Discipline:
Warning: These self inquiry questions may cause discomfort
Be flexible and curious as you think about these prompts.
-What is your personal definition of self discipline?
-What is your personal relationship to self discipline?
-Are you satisfied with your own personal level of self discipline?
-Why is self discipline important? Or unimportant?
-Where do your beliefs and thoughts about self discipline stem from?
-Do you know how to better manage self discipline?
- What is stopping you from having more self discipline?
-Do you think self discipline and self destruction are related in any way?
Self discipline helps with self care.
I hope you took the time to consider the self discipline questions listed above. Taking the time to think about your own relationship to self discipline may help you develop and execute an effective self care plan. You may be surprised by what you find in your thoughts, feelings and beliefs about self discipline. It may be hard to acknowledge and accept the quality or quantity of self discipline in your life. All this means, is that there is room for improvement. The first step of change is to become aware of who you currently are.
Whenever we begin a new piece of self care or self growth work, it is important to remember what motivates you. What makes you want to be a better, more balanced person? Think about the goals that require that you take better care, because you realize no one can do it for you. The big task here is to think about what you value and what the consequences of those values are. How does what you value contribute to your sense of satisfaction in life? How does what you value take away from your sense of satisfaction in life?
Self discipline is defined by Google definition as "the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it."
Self discipline is said to contribute to longterm success.
Everyone's definition of success is different. Let us assume that people strive to experience more satisfaction and pleasurable experiences in their life and that this would, therefore, increase their personal level of success. Did you know that much can be gained by monitoring stress and anxiety? Having a good sense of how you handle stress can inform your self care routine. Having a real, honest sense of how you handle stress and anxiety may also help you better understand your relationship to self discipline. Sitting with the potential discomfort that comes up when seriously considering self insight questions is beneficial. Taking the time to consider your choices and responses to life can promote acting on self discipline versus self destruction. Remember that self discipline is about self compassion and self love. Use your self desires to steer what self discipline is for you!
Self discipline, self care, self love, self compassion and self desire all strengthen the relationship you have with yourself; your personhood, heart, mind, body and soul. Take notice, take care!
Stay tuned for my next blog, which is related to self care and self discipline, on how to practice nonviolence with yourself and others.